Guide
How to find and work with a lawyer
You'll want an employment lawyer. How to find one, keep the cost down by limiting scope, and what a lawyer can and can't do for you.
9-minute read
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Aftermetoo
92 articles
Guide
How to decide whether to take legal action (and what to expect if you do)
Suing is mainly about money and can drag on for years, but starting doesn't lock you in: 98% of cases settle or end early. What to consider.
16-minute read
Guide
How to decide whether to quit your job—and how to make that work
Most people who quit don't regret it, so the real question is how to leave well: line up a job, see a lawyer first, and let go of the guilt.
6-minute read
Guide
How to decide whether to go to the police
Some harassment is criminal, but most isn't, and with police clearing about 1 in 10 cases, reporting is a personal call. What to consider.
8-minute read
Guide
How to decide whether to go public, and how to protect yourself if you do
Going public can lead to online abuse, a defamation lawsuit, or career damage. Here's how to protect yourself.
9-minute read
Guide
How to decide whether to change your career to get away from harassment—and how to make that work
People who leave high-harassment fields end up happier but often poorer, so the real question is whether you can trade income for safety.
7-minute read
Guide
How does sexual harassment affect people’s mental health?
What harassment does to your mental health, why self-blame is a lie, and the warning signs that mean it's time to get help.
8-minute read
Guide
How can sexual harassment affect my career?
Reporting is the biggest career risk and quitting protects your reputation best. How harassment sets you back, and how to limit the damage.
9-minute read
Guide
How can you tell if what you are experiencing is sexual harassment?
If it feels like sexual harassment, it almost certainly is—even if it's 'normal' where you work, it happens off-site, or isn't from your boss.
3-minute read
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How can I talk with the harasser to get them to stop?
You're not obligated to confront your harasser, and it often won't work. If you try, aim only to make clear the behaviour is unwelcome.
2-minute read
Guide
How can I talk with my employer to get them to stop the harassment?
Scripts for asking your employer to step in informally—and the catch that raising it at all can trigger a formal investigation.
4-minute read
Guide
Grief and loss: Why we feel them and what can help
Harassment makes you grieve real losses, like your time, safety, trust, and plans you had. Why it comes in waves, and what helps.
6-minute read
